Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Boyfriend Is Poly… And I’m Maybe Perhaps Not

Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Boyfriend Is Poly… And I’m Maybe Perhaps Not

Dear Doc,

i will be 10 months as a relationship by having a guy that is absolutely wonderful. We have been appropriate on just about any degree, the chemistry he loves my kids from a previous marriage, and we’ve been discussing the possibility of getting married between us is amazing.

the thing is that he’s polyamorous and I’m maybe not.

he had been currently in a relationship with an other woman once we began dating, and their relationship has proceeded. He sees her approximately any other weekend, although he want to save money time along with her. He’s additionally available to other relationships developing later on. He has got been honest and open concerning this right from the start.

No desire is had by me to be poly myself. This man checks just about any package on my “want from a relationship” list. But after going right through two divorces as a result of my lovers’ infidelity, dating a poly man *hurts*. Everytime he’s gone for the I go through fits of anxiety based on my fears of being left for another woman yet again weekend. I generally speaking either lash down until he gets back at him(we’ve had some epic fights over text messages) or I completely emotionally shut down. I’ve told him just just how this impacts me personally, and for me, he says he shouldn’t have to change who he is or how he loves because of my insecurities while he understands this is hard. […]